Welcome! This is my husband Jon & I’m Jema.
The two of us have a long history together of being unconventional – met at eleven, married at twenty, and had four children. We used to watch movies at his house and secretly hold hands under a giant pillow while inhaling popcorn.
Our marriage fell apart in 2008 when Jon’s secret struggle with sex addiction was revealed. Because of my own sexual wounds, it sent me into a downward spiral.
I remember the day I looked at our wedding photo hanging above the couch and took it off of its nail. I took a photo copy of it, and shoved the original in my closet in hopes it would disappear. I locked our bedroom door and in silence I let out my rage on that photo by tearing it into pieces and glueing it to a background. I never swore, it was not what good girls did. But, my Sharpie swore and it wrote the most angry words of its life that day across our wedding montage. You see, my marriage was a lie. ~Jema
I got the call at work. She knew of my deepest and most shameful secret. Panic flooded over me. It seemed like my life was over. All that I had worked for in my life was gone. I knew it could also mean I would lose her. I sat frozen in the driver’s seat as I drove home to face her anger, her sadness. It seemed my marriage was over. ~Jon
For some mysterious reason, we both chose to attend therapy and do our own work. Therapy taught us about who we were and the baggage we had brought into the relationship. We also learned new ways to connect and communicate with one another to deepen our relationship.
We didn’t think that was quite strange enough, so we sold our Minnesota life in January of 2011 to live in a motorhome with four kids, a dog, a cat, and a fish. Oh, and then make the RV into a public art project that looks like a butterfly. Seriously, we live in a butterfly.
Our Relationship Podcast
You can expect the real, the raw, and the quirky at Something Like Marriage. Our podcast shares both sides of the story.
- We answer relationship questions
- Talk about serious topics
- Laugh at ourselves
With over twenty years of something like marriage, years of therapy, and seven years of life in a box, we have lots of stories to share with you. Thanks for being here. We like you just the way you are.
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