Welcome to Something Like Marriage! I’m Jon & I’m Jema.
The two of us have a long history together of being unconventional in our relationship – met at eleven, dated, married at twenty, and had four children. We started our messy love story by watching movies at his parents’ house while we secretly held hands under a giant pillow and inhaled popcorn.
And then, after a while we became distant. It went on for years surviving the status quo until our marriage fell apart in 2008.
I remember the day I looked at our wedding photo hanging above the couch and took it off of its nail. I took a photo copy of it, and shoved the original in my closet in hopes it would disappear. I locked our bedroom door and in silence I let out my rage on that photo by tearing it into pieces. You see, my marriage was a lie. ~Jema
I got the call at work. She knew of my deepest and most shameful secret. Panic flooded over me. It seemed like my life was over. All that I had worked for in my life was gone. I knew it could also mean I would lose her. I sat frozen in the driver’s seat as I drove home to face her anger, her sadness. It seemed my marriage was over. ~Jon
For some mysterious reason, we both chose to attend therapy and do our own work. Therapy taught us about who we were and the baggage we had brought into the relationship. We also learned new ways to connect and communicate with one another to deepen our relationship.
We desired change and a new marriage so we sold our Minnesota life in January of 2011 to live in a motorhome for eight years with four kids, a dog, a cat, and a fish named Turtle. We transformed the RV into a public art project that looked like a butterfly. Our life had become about transformation and trusting in the present moment like the life of a Monarch. (Learn more about the story of our butterfly RV art project.)
Our Relationship Podcast
You can expect to hear us talk about the real stuff of relationship at Something Like Marriage. Our relationship podcast shares both sides of the story.
- We answer relationship questions
- Share how adventure has changed our relationships
- Talk about serious stuff – sexuality, communication, depression, shame, and recovery.
- Talk about the lighter stuff – Jon almost falling out of a roller coaster, Jema trying to find her camping site by talking to a naked guy, the awning blowing off on the freeway.
With over twenty years of something like marriage, years of therapy, and eight years of life in a rolling box, we have lots of stories to share with you. Thanks for being here. We like you just the way you are.
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