Are you comparing your relationship on Facebook to other couples on vacation or celebrating a romantic night out? Yah, I can relate. I might snuggle into bed after finishing my evening chores and spot a Facebook notification on my phone. Which then leads into my endless and mindless scrolling. It can also lead to something I am really good at, comparing.
It really depends on how mindful and peaceful I am at that moment on the effect the scrolling can have on me. Perhaps, I had a difficult day and now I am comparing my personal challenges to someone’s lifetime achievement. I could leave that experience with a poor me attitude and negative self-talk.
The same is true if I was feeling disconnected in my relationship and compared that to a couple’s smiling faces in Hawaii while they were having the time of their life! Look at all of the fun they were having and here I am again at home with a sore back and Netflix.
Staying in reality, we can acknowledge that most of us post photos of our relationship during the good times. Thank goodness! Would you really want to see a photo of Jon and I arguing? Well, maybe that would help you feel better, so that’s a bad example.
(Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: William Iven)
Dealing With Comparing Your Relationship on Facebook
- When you feel resentment acknowledge it as a helpful tool to show you the direction you desire to go deep in your heart.
- Take that desire and use it as inspiration to take action.
- Embrace your own story with its highlights and challenges, and know others have them too.
- Turn your energy inward instead of outward and use it to experience what brings you joy in life.
- If you must compare, compare yourself to yourself!
Stream “Facebook vs. Us”
Relationship Podcast Gems:
- A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
- Technology is neutral, it depends what we use it for that dictates its impact.
- How can I make social media work for me?
- Follow loving, inspirational accounts.
- Learn something more about yourself when social media triggers an emotional reaction.
- Living in a crooked RV makes walking challenging. 🙂