The meaning of gifts in our relationship happens to be very different. No surprises there! After learning more about one another on our last episode of Simplifying Holiday Gift Giving for Couples we dig in deeper to what gifts mean to us individually.
I love giving gifts. It is like a puzzle waiting to be put together – taking small clues and building up to one present. A mystery to solve and smiles to be won. It shows someone that you have been thinking of them. That they are loved. It’s not a chore for me. And yet, that is my perspective. Isn’t it interesting how you put your own perspective on someone else?
Jon relates how frustrating it can be to find the perfect gift for me. He says it’s like having a professor tell you to write a final paper in college that’s worth the entire grade. Except, as the student, you will not be told the topic or how long it will be. If it isn’t impressive, you will fail. And not only will you fail, but you will be a bad person!
I started to see gift giving from Jon’s perspective. As the person with expectations, I was not giving him much to go on. I was also putting a lot of meaning on gifts. The gift was an indication of my importance to Jon. Whoa. We walked away from this episode with insight into one of our common conflicts and share that insight with you.
We decided to choose a gift together this year and skip the whole mumbo-jumbo. Although, I may now want those pans. Did we mention giving gifts in a relationship is complicated? 🙂
(Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: DiEtte Henderson)
Relationship Podcast Gems:
Accept we are different people. I observe, take notes. Love presents. My husband doesn’t love gifts.
Challenge the belief that if he really loved you, he would read your mind.
Be very specific if you want a specific gift.
Have an idea board on Pinterest, Trello, or stick it on the fridge.
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