A hug every day in the morning is as simple as pouring hot water through coffee beans. It can start my day off in a happy direction and it welcomes a day of connection with Jon.
Our hug every day used to be part of the morning routine of chaos. It signified the beginning of Jon’s work day, and my day as a stay-at-home-mom. I would give him a PJ squeeze by the door leading into the attached garage where the cat may have left a throw up ball on his truck’s hood depending on her mood.
The hug was sent with “you are special to me” and “please let me suck some of your energy so I can make it through this morning with the four kids!” It was reassurance that we were in this crazy life together. And just for a moment I could bury my head in his chest and forget about the bills, the dirty house, the melt downs, and just be still. The hug released my stress and I felt like we were in it all together.
Hugging was especially helpful for us during times when our conversations were not working and words were becoming weapons. We could hug in silence while we worked through our stuff. It was a simple way to connect until we could practice loving conversations.
Today, where the routine is more fluid, I forget our morning hug at times. My thoughts about the activities of the day take my interest. The wonderful thing is that Jon works in the RV in the corner of our little bedroom. And I make sure to find him at some point in the day for a loving hug. I also try to get some hugs in with my teenagers. It seems to connect us, especially when conversations become emotional and I can ask may I have a hug from you or would you like a hug?
The benefits of hugging include boosting self-esteem, strengthening our immune system, and lowering stress. Some believe we need at least 8 hugs every day. I am content giving hugs out in the moment I feel compelled. And I have found that giving a hug in the morning to my husband is a simple way for us to say “we are in this together.” (photo by Pablo Heimplatz)
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