In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we unravel simplifying gift giving for couples during the holidays and our history of miscommunication during Christmas. (There may be some miscommunication on the episode, always keeping it real for you.)
When we were young, around thirteen, I set my expectations for Jon’s gift giving. He bought me flowers (from a flower shop) and stuffed animals, and figurines. He was so romantical!
Then, we got married and I fell into the belief that if Jon really loved me he would know what to buy for me (cough). That usually failed miserably. Throw in some kids or maybe four and the gift giving chaos became too much to handle.
It was obvious we needed to set some expectations for our kids and for us around gift giving. We came up with three simple gifts – gold, frankincense, and myrrh. The kids would receive something they wanted, something they could share, and something they needed. It set financial expectations for us, and they knew how many gifts would be under the tree.
After we moved into this RV it not only simplified our life but minimalized our stuff. Now, we are very mindful of what we bring in because it needs to fit! We also discovered our family received more value from the experiences we chose to do together than accumulating more stuff.
Simplifying Gift Giving is About Setting Expectations
Everyone wants to be successful at gift giving, especially in a relationship. For us, it is important to be clear and specific. Having a conversation about what each other’s expectations are can create a loving experience for both people in the relationship! That’s what we want for us and for you!
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- Be successful in gift giving this holiday season by setting clear expectations.
- Choose a system for simplifying gift giving such as the three gifts
- Decide if gifts mean things or experiences, or a little bit of both
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