After the romantic phase of our relationship ended I wondered, why doesn’t he buy me flowers anymore? We chat about how small things like flowers can show one another appreciation, and how some people don’t feel the same way about flowers (hint: Jon)!
Sometimes we wander through the day feeling like no one appreciates us. As my hands wrinkle from the fourth time of washing dishes in the day without any thanks from the family, I watch the water swirl away and feel like those little bits of food left in the sink drain. When the kids were young it felt like I was a robot trapped in a time loop – make a meal, clean up a meal, change a diaper, and repeat. The young ones were not in a place to say “thank you,” and at the time I couldn’t communicate with Jon what I was needing – some gratitude. So, it seemed like what I was missing were flowers. Yes, flowers were the answer because I used to receive them and I remember feeling happier. It must be the flowers!
As we talk about in this episode, it isn’t necessarily the flowers that I have been looking for all of these years, but a gesture of appreciation, a reminder that I am loved. Flowers are a simple way for me to feel thought of, where Jon feels more appreciated by affirming words or loving touch.
This episode is about communicating how we feel appreciated in our relationship. Maybe we need to toss in some loving gestures into our day and say “thank you” for working so hard for the family in a little way. And if you need a little more nature and beauty in your life than you are receiving, wander through the grocery store and grab a bouquet of flowers for yourself like I do!
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